Proper prior planning prevents poor performance. That’s the more family-friendly version of the old saw. First you have to survive the encounter, and then the aftermath. Yes, the wise and prudent man knows that protecting one’s self from bad guys involves a whole lot more than stuffing a firearm into one’s pocket or purse.
Have you given consideration to what you would do if a violent criminal predator picks you as their victim… and you respectfully decline with some ballistic deterrence?
Alas, you’ve wrecked your attacker’s magnificent tattoos with a pair of slugs. And the cops are on the way, most rapido.
Did your concealed carry course cover how to interact with other witnesses before the cops get there? What will you say to the cops when they arrive on the scene? Have you signed up for some sort of concealed carry insurance? Also, do you have an attorney?
You can bet your butt that your local cops and prudent concealed carry holders have answers to all of the above. Do you?
Yeah, you survived. That’s number one. But a lot can go wrong after the fact. If you fail this real-life quiz, you risk your life, livelihood, indeed your liberty.
Thankfully, court precedent says your actions only have to be reasonable, not perfect. Still, you remain at risk. Sadly, even if you did everything virtually perfectly, things don’t always conclude with “happily ever after.”
Doubt that? Just ask George Zimmerman (of Trayvon Martin fame). While a jury came back with an acquittal, Victoria Rickman’s case didn’t work out as well for her. She’s now serving life without parole in Georgia after shooting a man who attacked her in her own residence.
In both cases, better prior planning would have made both of these individuals’ lives a whole lot easier in the aftermath of their respective defensive gun uses. Frankly, I suspect a top flight attorney and better expert witnesses probably would have kept Ms. Rickman (pictured below) out of the slammer. Sadly, she didn’t have legal defense insurance.
So do you want things to go fairly smoothly in the aftermath of using deadly force, or are you OK with the Zimmerman/Rickman model? It’s your circus, not mine.
Better concealed carry courses will cover interacting with witnesses as well as the right way to respond to investigating officers. If you missed it, it’s not too late to find a course to get you up to speed.
Do you have an attorney? Now’s a fine time to find one, not when you’re trembling, and holding a cell phone as you attacker lies bleeding in front of you. Retired judges and state’s attorneys oftentimes make good criminal defense attorneys. Ask your cop friends who they would want to represent their spouse if the worst happens.
Did you call Armed Citizens Legal Defense Network or US Concealed Carry Association and get signed up for CCW “insurance”? Do it. Right now. Tell ACLDN that John Boch or Guns Save Life sent you, if you want, and you’ll save $25 on your first year’s coverage. Or not. I don’t get paid either way and neither does GSL.
Okay, you’ve survived the attack by defending yourself with a firearm. The police have released you, with or without a discrete pat on the back for taking out the trash. You’ve gone home. What now?
First, expect to have difficulty sleeping. That’s called nightmares for those of you living in Rio Linda. Shooting and/or killing someone is traumatic for most decent people.
Then don’t be surprised when you hear mainstream media reports of how you shot that poor young man who didn’t even have a gun. All he had was a knife!
Yes, the media will interview his mom or his auntie (see pic below). As the cameras roll, she will wipe a tear from her eye and tell the reporter how Junior aspired to be a veterinarian to help animals. Or cure cancer. Or something like that.
She’ll cry and ask rhetorically, “Why did he shoot him five times?” The answer, of course, is that Junior needed shooting that many times before he stopped his violent, criminal attack. But the reporter will leave the question unanswered while the camera lingers on auntie for the 6pm news viewers.
And the producer will put up your jail mugshot photo (if you have one) next to Junior’s 8th grade altar boy pic.
Some in the community will say you carried that gun because you were looking for trouble.
The next thing you know, you and your whole family are suffering from the Mark of Cain. People will look at you differently now that you’ve taken a life. Some people who you thought were your friends will shun you. Neighbors may view you with suspicion. Your kids may suffer harassment in school and your spouse may experience it at his or her workplace.
Worse, you’re always looking over your shoulder as the dead thug’s family and gangster friends run their mouths pledging retribution.
There are more worries as the local state’s attorney wants to take the case to a grand jury to pander for votes before the next election. That kind of stress will wear down even the strongest among us.
How to deal with it
In order to handle the pressures of your new circumstances, you could turn to prescription or recreational pharmaceuticals, or alcohol. Or food. None are good coping mechanisms and will usually lead to bigger problems long-term. What’s a better strategy?
Seek professional help. Nobody’s going to take your guns or your gun license for seeing a shrink in the aftermath of a deadly force incident. Ask police for the name of their department mental health professional. This person will have experience helping other good people who put down bad ones.
Turn to your friends and family. A support structure of dependable family members and rock-solid friends will prove invaluable. People who have earned your trust and who will support you through adversity, including a post-defensive gun use.
Your church can help, too. Your church family stands as another resource – both in the pastor/priest as well as fellow church members.
A word of caution: If your church is one that frowns on any use of violence, no matter how justified, find a new church. Now. The last thing you need in the aftermath of a righteous incident is to be shunned by people you thought were your friends.
If your church has “NO GUNS” stickers on the doors, take that as a sign from the Lord. Find a new church. Take your time, talents, tithing and life’s energy to a better house of worship that not only respects your attitudes on self-defense, but welcomes them.
Don’t be like one of our Guns Save Life families who contested the “No Guns” signs on his (now former) church’s doors. The member and his wife both lost a bunch of so-called friends in a matter of days. Better to cast aside fake friends in good times than to have them show their true colors in bad times, when you really need support. Life’s too short for lousy triggers and crappy friends.
Turn to fellow gun owners. You will find sympathetic folks at Guns Save Life meetings – or similar grassroots gun group meetings in your area. People who understand and support the concept of armed self-defense. People who won’t look down on you for using force to defend innocent life. You may even find a few people who have first-hand experience doing just that.
Begin to make healthy changes in your life where needed. Today. Distance fair-weather “friends” who don’t respect you and your beliefs. Surround yourself with good people now. Let good friends and family serve as your safety net in a time of need, just as you would selflessly do for them if the roles were reversed.
Just as prudent folks have insurance to back up fire extinguishers and smoke detectors, the same applies to self-defense. Have insurance and a lawyer to back up a gun and solid training. CCW insurance will take a load of worries away if the worst happens.
In short, a little proper prior planning will prevent poor performance in all aspects of life. Especially in areas like this where you have so much to lose from failing to prepare.
What to say to someone you know who survived?
What do you say to someone you know who just survived a defensive gun use situation? Obviously, it’s a delicate topic.
The first thing: “I’m glad you’re still here with us.” Let them know you support what they did and are happy they survived.
Tell them you’re there for them. Ask them if they need someone to watch the kids or their pets? Do they need someone to house-sit while you get away for a weekend? Pick up the kids from school or take them to baseball practice?
Offer to talk if you’ve experienced a similar situation.
Do you have a weekend house they could use for a while? Maybe send them a bouquet of flowers to brighten their day. Or invite them over to a home-cooked dinner. Little things can mean a lot. Let them know they don’t have to do this alone.
A few things not to do: Don’t ask for details or a narration of what happened. Anything they tell you is discoverable in court in the immediate aftermath. If they want to tell you at some point down the road, they’ll bring it up when they’re ready. Don’t push. Just let them know you’re there to support them during a difficult time.