In the movies, the female companion of the brave action hero never takes a moment to grill the hero about why he packs a pistol all the time. In real life, however, not everyone is so progressive of thought. As a 27-year-old young man with a CCW permit, vetting dates has become a secondary talent. Here are a few tips for finding firearm-friendly females . . .
1) Pay attention to the woman’s background. I hate to use the word “stereotyping”, but if your lady friend is a fan of Obama and pictures her dream job as being a diplomat at the UN, it’s probably not the wisest approach to take her for a first date to the gun range. But be careful not to fall into the trap of associating geography with anti-gun sentiment. I dated a girl from New York City who didn’t mind me owning guns, and I’ve met more then a few from red state America who support The House of Feinstein.
2) Can the fanboy gun talk. If youre with Kirsten Joy Weiss’ sister, by all means compare range notes. The average girl, though, doesn’t have the faintest idea about the differences between a GLOCK Gen 3 and a Gen 4. And couldnt care less. Be prepared for some ignorant preconceptions as well. At one time circumstances forced me to load and uncase my S&W M&P9 when leaving the base, and my date said ” nice GLOCK.” The poor girl meant well, but…ouch. I had to eat my pride and smile back, even as I felt the instinctual need to jump down her throat and say “when was GLOCK ever located in Springfield Massachusetts??!!”
3) Be on the lookout for any sign of a turbulent past history, and weigh anchor of you detect signs of problems. I don’t want to say that women should be judged for their past mistakes, but you have to be practical about this. Many ex-boyfriends can be violent and even well-balanced dudes has been known to lose it and resort to irrational activity in the face of rejection. If something “goes down” and it results in a dead body with you holding a smoking gun, every detail of the event will be open for public scrutiny.
Defending your home or person from a random attack by a total stranger is a situation everyone can understand. It’s a lot harder to argue self defense in court when the dead body is that of a former suitor of your current significant other. Ideally, there will be a paper trail demonstrating the individual’s prior instability, but it’s not hard to imagine how bad your case will look if the bad guy shows up out of the blue and you’re forced to defend yourself.
There’s one more complicating factor – some women lie. This may be just an annoyance when you’re an unarmed man, but having a CCW permit means there’s zero room for impropriety here. Don’t play the game of lovers’ geometry, where you end up a participant in a triangle. There’s a thin line between self defense against a crazed attacker, and a plot to commit the murder of an inconvenient husband. Even if you had no idea of the association, it won’t stop a prosecutor from arguing it at your trial. Better a lonely night at home then a cuckolded boyfriend or husband with a short temper finding his wife in bed with you. After all, you’re not the only man who carries a gun.
Finally, the best advice is to just act normally. Don’t make carrying a gun out to be a life-changing, epic event of a monumental nature. If you’ve done a good job in preselecting the lady to start with, she won’t care that you’re armed, and might even appreciate it as a positive attribute.