Wow! Women and guns! Who’d a thunk it! Anyone with a half a brain, really. Common sense suggests that women are inherently more likely to be a target for assault, rape and murder than men. Oh wait. Did I say common sense? I meant to say statistical evidence. The Bureau of Justice Statistics has a handy chart based on data from the FBI’s Uniform Crime Reports listing the gender of victims of violent crimes (rape, robbery, simple and aggravated assault) from 1973 to 2008. While the gap has narrowed considerably (and the overall rate has declined dramatically), women have been more at risk than men for the last 35 years. Anyway, this post isn’t another tired retread of the idea of women taking control of their own armed self-defense. This is about you forcing her to take control of your mutual self-defense . . .
I wish I had a case of .45s for every guy who’s told me that they’d keep a self-defense gun in the house—if their wife would let them. Through my exclusive “Grow a Pair Pistol Program,” I’ve helped dozens of hubbies break through the spousal barrier. But none of them—not one—has been able to draft-in their better half and convince the Mrs. to adopt the practice of bearing arms.
That’s a bit worrying for perpetually paranoid husbands; their wives spend a large amount of their time away from their armed significant others. Of course, there are non-firearm things a concerned spouse can do to increase his wife’s ability to defend herself and the kids: situational awareness haranguing, a can of pepper spray, rape whistle, knife, etc.
Here’s another one: give her a gun.
What? No training? No permitting process? No nothing? Nope. But here’s the catch: only give her a gun immediately before or during a life-threatening situation. If you get the sense that the shit’s about to hit the fan, or there’s excrement everywhere, slip the Mrs. a gun. Et voila! You’ve doubled your defense.
Remember that virulent anti-gun perspective? Gone. When the survival instinct kicks in, the moral positioning goes out. In other words, when she says “Over my dead body,” she doesn’t mean it. Even if she thinks she does.
Caveats? Lots. First, make sure a heat-of-the-moment weapons transfer is legal in your state or local jurisdiction. No matter how desperate or dire the situation, we don’t want to fall afoul of gun laws. It’s better to be dead and legal than alive and facing gun charges.
Second, if your wife is completely useless with a gun, maybe not. Then again, maybe yes. I suppose that depends on the surrounding environment (i.e. the odds of hitting an innocent bystander) and what kind of bad shit is going down.
Third, you can’t give her a gun if you don’t have one; carry a spare.
Fourth, choose an appropriate gun. As we’ve discussed here many times, small revolvers are the newbie weapon of choice—and the worst guns for a novice who wants to hit what they’re aiming at. Selecting the “correct” weapon for this application is a decidedly difficult challenge.
But it’s worth accepting. At the very least you’ll have a back-up gun. (As the rabbi reminds us, it’s a lot easier to grab a second gun than it is to perform a combat reload—especially in combat.) At best, well, the wife you save may be your own.